Comments on: The Secondary Attachment: A Look at Bowlby’s Theory http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=1279 Connecting with our children for a more compassionate world. Wed, 22 May 2013 10:05:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Melissa http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=1279&cpage=1#comment-4254 Melissa Mon, 02 Jul 2012 23:20:24 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=1279#comment-4254 I am looking for information to help justify my instinct to insist upon keeping my twins in the same Kindergarden class. Can anyone help?

]]> By: honey http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=1279&cpage=1#comment-535 honey Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:17:01 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=1279#comment-535 Another bit of proof showing care givers for working parents should be paid more than minimum wage,have lots of training and be people that LOVE & LIKE children. Also the government should implement something so a parent can stay home at least the first year. How many issues like drug abuse, murder,suicide, etc would not be so prevalent if our children were able to have strong secure bonds that supported them throughout life? Why should a family be forced to put their child in high turn over care so they can eat and have basic needs met? I wish something more could be done cause things like this make it obvious what will benefit our children.

Lovely article and site.

Honey

]]> By: Cassie http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=1279&cpage=1#comment-459 Cassie Thu, 14 Oct 2010 16:27:58 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=1279#comment-459 Interesting article. I’m a mother to a nine month old daughter who I stay at home with and am undoubtedly the primary attachment figure to, gladly. I’ve wondered lately if I was also the primary attachment figure to my younger sister when she was a baby. She’s now 14 years old, I’m 25, and we’ve talked about it quite a bit lately. Long story short, we grew up in a pretty unhealthy home environment, with a rage-filled, aggressive and physically and emotionally abusive father and very passive, distant mother. She did have more attached relationships with us as babies, because she breastfed and was much more affectionate and loving while we were babies. But even so, the majority of the time, us siblings were expected to care for the babies (there are 11 children total). I felt so much love for my sister when she was born, and made a conscious decision to give her the best care I possibly could. I spent every second I could with her. Now she’s a very compassionate, confident and sweet person, and her and I wonder if her stable mental health is partly because of the attachment we had when she was just a baby (especially after researching Attachment Theory). After reading this article, I think I may have been the primary attachment figure to her.

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