Comments on: What’s the Big Deal with CIO?

By: Elle

Elle — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 16:42:32 +0000

No, “Babywise” is a method of controlling babies based on the advice of a self-trained Christian minister with no background in infant development. There’s a great deal of information, including concerns from healthcare professionals, at this site: http://ezzo.info/

By: lsew

lsew — Wed, 25 May 2011 20:56:23 +0000

Is this Baby Wise method similar to that Baby Whisperer lady’s? Sounds like that Tizzie woman is similar as well.

Those are westernized method s to make it easier on parents & caregivers…it makes me soooooooo very sad. Methods have nothing on a mothers instinct, which unfortunately many mothers & caregivers seem to be lacking.
Ignorance often accompanies self righteousness…makes me sick, really.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 20 May 2011 14:42:38 +0000

I don’t understand CIO. I can’t bear to listen to my child cry especially when I know all he wants is me.

I rock my son to sleep at night and it only takes FIVE to TEN minutes of my time. At 2 1/2 months he started sleeping for one 7 hour stretch and one 4-5 hour stretch at night. It’s worth those few minutes of rocking to me!

By: Kaela

Kaela — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 19:41:07 +0000

Lindsay –

You don’t understand. Babies are biologically MEANT to be held and rocked to sleep by their mothers.

Baby wise has led to SIDS. That’s why there is a big controversy surrounding those books.

There is a wealth of information here:

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/cosleeping.pdf

I agree that each parent should listen to their own individual child’s needs. But, just because it worked better for your adult needs and they seem okay doesn’t necessarily mean that it was the right choice for your children.

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 06:11:00 +0000

I have a 3-month-old daughter who was born 5 weeks early. My husband and I are practicing attachment parenting with her.

I am in a recovery program that requires me to go to one hour-and-a-half meeting a week. I have attended two meetings over the course of a month and left baby with her loving and attentive father each time. Both times I have come home to screaming. My husband says both bouts lasted about 30 minutes. She stops immediately when given the breast.

Could this be damaging to the brain development of my baby girl

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 20:05:00 +0000

My husband and I have two girls and we used the “baby wise” method on both of them. I don’t believe that I am an “ill informed parent”, but we did what was best for our children. Each parent will know what is best for their child and to say that every parent should follow the exact same guidelines for raising their babies into children seems like “ill informed parenting” to me. To be honest, I am so glad that we followed the baby wise program. It made for a happier for mother and happier child. My girls learned to put themselves to sleep and not rely on me to rock them and then carefully as not wake them or I’d have to keep rocking them, place them in their cribs. They got more sleep, ate better since they ate full meals and weren’t snacking and were just happier.

Also, if you are aware of baby wise, it is letting them cry it out, but you just don’t leave the baby! You let them fuss for a little while, and then you go to them, let them know they are okay and then let them fuss some more. As long as you know they are fed, clean, safe and nothing else seems to be the matter, they are okay. They won’t grow up to be freaks, abuse people, afraid of relationships…they’ll be okay. I think parents who think these things need to evaluate themselves. Babies need loves and cuddles and you can do this, but I think there comes a point when they need to learn to sleep. Again, to each his/her own, and I am partial to the baby wise program, but whatever works for each parent, good for them!

By: The Attached Family

The Attached Family — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 01:36:25 +0000

Thank you Katie! ~ The Attached Family editorial team

By: Missy

Missy — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 01:30:47 +0000

I have a 6 month old baby boy and I have been doing the attachment method as my instincts tell me this is the way a baby should be treated. I will admit it is very hard to do but my instincts tell me this is what’s best for him. When he cries, I feel he needs to know he is safe so I make sure I am always there for him. He needs that foundation. IMO a baby or toddler is helpless and therefore by being there for them, they will learn to feel strong and confident because this is the support we gave them when they were in this helpless state. They will also IMO be linked to this 100% empathetic connection with mom, and so they will become empathetic as adults having lived this relationship with mom. Sure you will not have time to do much else, forget cleaning the house, LOL! But, if you go back in time a million years, there were no houses to clean.
BTW, sleep next to your baby at night, and when he/she wakes, you breastfeed them immediately, and they go right back to sleep. I have been doing this for 6 months now and we both sleep through the entire night.
TRUST your instincts! They tell you to run to your baby when he/she cries! This goes back millions of years of evolution. Pick them up and make them feel good and safe.

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 16:21:50 +0000

Aah. Now there are studies that back up what I knew instinctively when I became a new mother many years ago. So glad there is scientific evidence to support what most mothers have always known. Great job AP!

By: Alessandra - italy

Alessandra - italy — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 09:31:43 +0000

GREAT ARTICLE.
Personally, I`m shocked when I see people still believing in the cry-it-out methods.
I find it impossible that somebody can send to their child messages such as “I don`t care about you, I don`t care if you are suffering, and my love is conditional: I love you just as long as you are quiet and don`t bother me“.
OK there are methods such as “controlled crying“, which I`m still not a fan of but are better that pure CIO. But many people don`t know how to use them correctly and end up in using them as CIO.

@Laverne:
I understand what you mean: also my son needed the “pacifier“ breastfeeding to fall asleep and every time he woke up at night, and this was until 2 years!

If you really feel you have to stop this because you can`t take it anymore, you probably should stop it, rather than being unhappy or too stressed.
You are not letting him cry alone abandoned.
If he is in your arms and you cuddle him and kiss him and make him feel loved and cared for, it`s not even comparable to the CIO method.
You can keep telling him that at nigh also milk goes night-night and will be there for him the next day, but Mom is still there for him to cuddle and comfort him.
He`s too little to understand now, but he is growing up fast and if you keep telling him this in a loving way he will get it.

Ale