Comments on: What to do When Children Demean Each Other http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=2716 Connecting with our children for a more compassionate world. Wed, 22 May 2013 10:05:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Leslie http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=2716&cpage=1#comment-838 Leslie Sun, 12 Jun 2011 20:05:08 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=2716#comment-838 Interesting! I had not thought about it that way!

]]> By: Eileen http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=2716&cpage=1#comment-804 Eileen Wed, 25 May 2011 20:45:04 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=2716#comment-804 This is a very realistic approach to dealing with this problem. I’ve tried a lot of ways to get my son to back off his sister. Then one day, I realized that he was being so hurtful to her because he, himself, felt fragile, hurt and threatened by what he perceived as her “perfection.” What a surprise that was to me when all along I’d been seeing him as the aggressor!

I’ve never felt comfortable with the approach “when you say x, it makes me feel y.” Yet I never understood exactly why until you pinpointed it: it gives away your own power to someone else who can hurt you with words. I’d much rather my kids grow up to be strong in themselves and feel compassion for a person who is hurting so badly that they feel the need to lash out at another.

Great article! Lots of food for thought!

]]> By: Julie http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=2716&cpage=1#comment-740 Julie Thu, 21 Apr 2011 20:18:22 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=2716#comment-740 I agree with Gary.. thanks!

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]]> By: Gray http://theattachedfamily.com/?p=2716&cpage=1#comment-707 Gray Sat, 26 Mar 2011 03:06:45 +0000 http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=2716#comment-707 Very interesting…I agree but could use a few more examples of how to deal with the situation, including how to address the child who feels hurt by other’s words.

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