Comments on: The Invisible Bond Not Limited to Parents

By: Kim

Kim — Fri, 20 Jul 2012 20:17:21 +0000

Young people are hungry for contact with people whom they admire, who excite and inspire them. These qualities can be found in their real relationships with the ordinary women and men who surround them.

Can you remember a teacher, a neighbour, an auntie, or a family friend who touched your life deeply? Consider who these people may be in your child’s life and how you might support the development of their relationship. Spending time, ordinary time is a great way, but not the only way.

Could skype be the way to stay in touch; or encouraging her to drop off something on her way home; or a day out; or an invitation to breakfast?

Life with children can easily circulate around their timetable and their socialising but a child’s life that includes meaningful relationships with other adults is a rich one.

It takes a village to raise a child.
Notice who comprises your village…

By: Kelly @ Ahimsa Mama

Kelly @ Ahimsa Mama — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:53:16 +0000

This is such an important topic – secondary attachments make for healthier, happier, more resilient children and should be celebrated and encouraged! My daughter went to a small private school for the last two years that closed, and she was devastated at the loss of her beloved teacher, Anne. So she sent Anne a letter, and Anne responded ~ and now they are pen pals. It is teachers, people like that who make our parenting jobs so much easier.

By: The Invisible Bond Not Limited to Parents

The Invisible Bond Not Limited to Parents — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:11:57 +0000

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By: Shoshana Hayman

Shoshana Hayman — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:58:31 +0000

Dear Michele,
Life is filled every day with frustrations, both for children and for us parents. There are many answers to your question. If you can perhaps expound a bit more — why do you think you’re doing something wrong, when does your frustration level rise, etc. I can try to give you some insight that will give you some direction and a feeling of being more in control so you can be more of the mom you want to be for your child (which is already half of the journey of getting there:-)).
warmly,
Shoshana

By: Michele

Michele — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 07:48:32 +0000

I’m my child’s Mother. What the heck am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? I know it’s not going to be smooth going 100% of the time, but I’m at wit’s end sometimes with frustration that I’m just not doing it right.

By: Allison

Allison — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 09:09:16 +0000

This is an excellent post, thanks for sharing. Secondary attachments to teachers, caregivers, friends and extended family help to enrich our childrens lives. I believe strongly in the importance of community in developing healthy attchment. In today’s western society we typically no longer have the help of the community in raising our children. In fact we often actively discourage what is viewed as interference or meddling from outside of the immediate family unit. So encouraging secondary attachments where they do occur in our society is really something we should be nurturing and celebrating.