Comments on: Why Early Attachment Matters for Childhood, and Beyond

By: Dr Miriam Stoppard undermines breastfeeding « snootyandoffensive

Dr Miriam Stoppard undermines breastfeeding « snootyandoffensive — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 10:46:51 +0000

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By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 12:17:25 +0000

I’d say that I am a very strong proponent of attachment/peaceful parenting, but how does one read these articles and NOT feel as though they have failed their child? I’ve endeavoured in every way to ensure that my child knows that he and his emotions are valued and he is responded to as quickly as possible, but he still exhibits behaviours that are typical of an “unattached” or “insecure” child. How can we ever really know if we’ve done right by our children, unless they are pretty much perfect? And lets be honest, NO child is perfect 100% of the time.
Are we saying that securely attached children are never shy, or are we saying that securely attached children are shy less often?

I guess I would just like to be able to say with certainty that my child is an attached child. That, because I prioritised his needs above mine 99% of the time, he knows he is loved unconditionally. That, because I never let him cry without responding, that he is valued. That, because I don’t arbitrarily impose my will upon him just because I can, that he knows that his wants and needs are valid too.

How can I really know this? Can I really know this?

I wish you could just ask a 3-yr-old, “hey, do you feel attached”?

By: Rickie Wishman

Rickie Wishman — Sat, 07 Jul 2012 09:22:07 +0000

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By: The Attached Family

The Attached Family — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 15:52:28 +0000

Hi Dean,

I’ll add them at the bottom.

~ Editor, Rita Brhel

By: Why Early Attachment Matters for Childhood, and Beyond

Why Early Attachment Matters for Childhood, and Beyond — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 17:41:18 +0000

[...] reveals what the research really says about the benefits of a secure parent-child attachment on The Attached Family online magazine: The quality of love a mother gives during her child’s first years of life has a tremendous and [...]

By: Dean Falk

Dean Falk — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 15:01:46 +0000

Early attachment between mothers and infants was also crucial for the evolution of higher cognition in our species! Where, by the way, can one find a list of the citations for the references in Haiman’s article (or am I missing something)?