Comments on: Modern parenting may hinder brain development, research shows

By: Link Love | striving for pure

Link Love | striving for pure — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 14:30:28 +0000

[...] shows that modern parenting styles may hinder brain development in [...]

By: Tish Prestage

Tish Prestage — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 04:04:23 +0000

I heard before my first was born that you can’t spoil a baby before 1 yr. old. I believe that completely! I didn’t let my girls cry and they were very happy & healthy. By 1 year they quit taking naps but slept from 7 p.m. – 7 a.m. no problem.

By: Lucia Villagomez

Lucia Villagomez — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:42:49 +0000

I can AGREE with more with Darcia Narvaez. This has been the final conclusion of my analysis done through the last 15 years that I am living in the USA. Great article!

By: Gail

Gail — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:34:31 +0000

Its wonderful to know that they are gathering so much evidence to confirm these observations and theories…..maybe one day the mainstream parenting world will catch on once they have it all Confirmed as Fact from the medical fraternities….

What seems as natural instinct to some mothers, completely eludes others …..each to their own though I guess….

By: mjh

mjh — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 18:50:50 +0000

My question is why do we have to have studies to “discover” what every instinct a mother has as her baby is being created within is telling her. We need to listen to our heart and respond.

Instead of joining with our own mothers when we give birth we are told to do it alone.

Being a woman is an incredible gift, to ourselves and to our world. We know how to care for our children. We touch, we place our babies next to our skin and enjoy, our heart leads us to long to be with them. Yet people and other studies have told us NOT to do these things.

Be silent, listen, be open to loving help. Rejoice in the gift of life, motherhood and family.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 17:42:57 +0000

I’m just wondering what other factors are take into consideration between infancy and adolescence. Between those age ranges a LOT of behavior is shaped. I sincerely doubt that all delinquency can be attributed to babies sitting in carriers or crying it out. Broken families, families who don’t eat together and talk or spend time together, or allow their kids to watch inappropriate or too much tv, or listen to inappropriate music, play video games and place more emphasis on technology than social interaction worry me more. And I am a mother of a 2-year-old and a 5-month-old who believes in attachment parenting to an extent. But I am practical. I exclusively breastfed my older son until he self-weaned at 10 months and plan to do the same with my youngest. I wear my baby when I can but sometimes he sits in his bouncer. He needs to learn to entertain himself, and I have responsibilities and a job, too. And we just started letting him cry at night. I’m curious what these researcher believe is an appropriate age to teach a baby to self-soothe? I think common sense goes a long way. Sure, be as natural as you possibly can. But when your baby is at risk of suffocation because he consistently squirms out of his swaddle and then cannot self-soothe back to sleep, realize that is a life skill he is ready for and teach it without feeling like you’re neglecting your baby. This isn’t black and white. It’s following your parental instincts an putting your child’s needs above your own.

By: Noelle

Noelle — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 16:52:36 +0000

I personally think that some of the other factors that are producing this type of aggressive and depressed behavior in adolescents is the lack of parenting for want of making sure to be the child’s friend. I am all for being kind and gentle and not scarring my child psychologically as they did in the not so olden days, but there is a happy medium and more people need to find it. Too many children get away with horrible behavior and then are pampered on top of that and have unreal expectations, and when those expectations aren’t met they become depressed and aggressive and demanding, because many times the parents give in and allow it after a certain amount of whining and crying and temper tantrums. Also, because things aren’t like pleasantville any longer, emotions aren’t kept in a box and behind closed doors, the freedom of speech that has run rampant on tv stations and out and about, children witness too much negative behavior and try to replicate that. That’s my personal opinion on other child rearing techniques that have changed over the years and caused this negative impact.

By: Nándin nærir allan ársins hring | árni+kristín

Nándin nærir allan ársins hring | árni+kristín — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 15:35:38 +0000

[...] Darcia Narvaez, prófessor í sálfræði við Notre Dame háskólann í Bandaríkjunum. Hún varar við ýmsu sem hefur verið viðhaft í uppeldi ungra barna þar í landi síðustu hálfa öldina, s.s. [...]