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The Attached Family 2013 Loving Uniquely Issue is about loving each of our children as individuals with unique character traits.
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1. Pregnancy & Birth

Fertility and conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and the early postpartum period.

2. The Infant

From newborn to 17 months.

3. The Toddler

From 18 months to age 3.

4. The Growing Child

From age 4 to age 9.

5. The Adolescent

From age 10 to age 18.

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Connecting with Older Children during Pregnancy
Wednesday, 18 Jan, 2012 – 12:16 | No Comment

By Kathleen Mitchell-Askar, contributing editor to The Attached Family
When I was pregnant with my first child, I wrote in my journal nearly every day about what I felt and the changes I was experiencing. Once …

The Invisible Bond Not Limited to Parents
Thursday, 1 Dec, 2011 – 19:16 | 6 Comments

By Shoshana Hayman, director of the Life Center/Israel Center for Attachment Parenting, http://lifecenter.org.il
Ricki was in trouble again with her first-grade substitute teacher, this time for accidentally spilling water on her desk. She missed her regular …

Creating a Village
Wednesday, 9 Nov, 2011 – 15:14 | 3 Comments

By Jenni Pertuset, parent consultant, API Leader in Seattle, Washington USA, http://apiseattle.org
The life of a parent can feel very isolated. Warm relationships with caring adults can sustain us when we’re struggling and help our children …

Reflections on Motherhood
Wednesday, 9 Nov, 2011 – 14:59 | 2 Comments

By Barbara P. Benjamin, poet and author of Beneath the Surface (as Barbara Scott), children’s author of One White Christmas in Alabama and My Best Friend Millie
I am the mother of a 26-year-old daughter. I …

Playful Parenting with Older Children and Teens
Tuesday, 1 Nov, 2011 – 17:51 | 5 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and attachment parenting leader (API of Portland, Oregon USA)
Young children play effortlessly. Kids are naturally predisposed to play, and it doesn’t take much to engage a child in …

Spotlight On: Million Minute Family Challenge
Wednesday, 24 Aug, 2011 – 18:24 | 2 Comments

API: Tell us, exactly what is the Million Minute Family Challenge?
BETH MUEHLENKAMP: The Million Minute Family Challenge is a grassroots effort across the United States and Canada to encourage families and friends to play non-electronic …

The Busy Brain Kit
Wednesday, 24 Aug, 2011 – 18:23 | One Comment

By Judy Arnall, director of Attachment Parenting Canada, www.professionalparenting.ca
Are you worried about your children’s bent necks and poor posture? Do their batteries run out at the wrong time?  Concerned that your toddler might drop your …

10 Phrases to Make a Better Parent
Wednesday, 27 Jul, 2011 – 17:03 | 7 Comments

By Judy Arnall, author of Discipline without Distress, www.professionalparenting.ca
Many times as parents, we blurt out sayings that we heard as children and later vowed to never say to our own children. However, that is easier …

Peaceful Parenting Tips for the Growing Child
Sunday, 17 Jul, 2011 – 20:28 | 4 Comments

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
Natasha Hartley doesn’t see herself as an expert in Attachment Parenting, but the many people who know her say she definitely knows what she’s doing …

Staying in Control when Things are Out of Control
Sunday, 3 Jul, 2011 – 18:03 | 9 Comments

By Shoshana Hayman, director of the Life Center/Israel Center for Attachment Parenting, http://lifecenter.org.il
“When I’m calm, I have no trouble responding patiently, but the problem is that my child’s tantrums jangle my nerves and I lose …

School-Age Children and the Family Bed
Monday, 27 Jun, 2011 – 17:04 | 17 Comments

By Judy Arnall, author of Discipline without Distress, www.professionalparenting.ca
“But you don’t have to sleep alone!” Kyle protests to his mom when she suggests he sleeps in his own room. Family bedrooms are increasingly becoming common …

The Importance of Making Mistakes
Wednesday, 25 May, 2011 – 10:12 | 2 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for Portland API, Oregon USA
So often, as parents, we try to prevent our kids from making mistakes. We issue warnings, reach out to help, or just …

The Third Step in Responding with Sensitivity
Wednesday, 18 May, 2011 – 9:50 | 2 Comments

By Dottie Stone Coleman, MAT, MEd
Whatever their age, every interaction with our children — every word, every response, every look – has the potential to build up their self-confidence and self-esteem, or tear it down. Likewise, …

Embracing Positive Discipline’s Challenges
Tuesday, 19 Apr, 2011 – 11:28 | 11 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader of API of East Portland, Oregon USA
Positive discipline doesn’t come instinctively for many people. In fact, that’s why most parents endeavor in positive discipline in the first …

How to Respond to the Most Frustrating Phrases Kids Say
Thursday, 31 Mar, 2011 – 13:57 | 3 Comments

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
“No!”
“You’re so mean.”
“I hate you!”
“Daddy lets me.”
“You like him better than me.”
“Why should I?”
“You can’t make me!”
“That’s mine!”
“I don’t want to.”
Kids say the darndest things, …

The “See One, Teach One, Do One” Approach to Teaching
Wednesday, 23 Mar, 2011 – 17:13 | 2 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for Portland API, Oregon USA
Teaching children practical life skills takes more time than we usually think.  It’s common for parents to get frustrated with kids who …

What to do When Children Demean Each Other
Wednesday, 23 Mar, 2011 – 17:00 | 5 Comments

By Naomi Aldort, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, www.naomialdort.com
Q: My daughter calls her brother stupid and he feels hurt. He does the same in return. I tried everything, but neither of them will …

Why It’s Important to Help Children Make Friends
Thursday, 3 Mar, 2011 – 11:01 | 3 Comments

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
My four-year-old is exceptionally smart but has a tough time with social relationships due to developmental delays spurring from prematurity. In fact, she’s in a …

Routines for Preschoolers
Tuesday, 1 Feb, 2011 – 20:12 | 5 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for East Portland API, Oregon USA
Many parents fall into a routine with their new baby sometime in the first few months of life. Eating and sleeping …

When Daddy Goes Away
Sunday, 23 Jan, 2011 – 19:18 | 8 Comments

By Naomi Aldort, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, www.naomialdort.com
Q: My husband will be going away for eight weeks in the near future. I am wondering how I can ease the stress of this …

Spotlight On: Camp Common Ground
Sunday, 23 Jan, 2011 – 18:38 | 2 Comments

API: Tell us, exactly what is Camp Common Ground?
CAROLE BLANE: I am a Leader of an Attachment Parenting International group in New Jersey and also the Program Coordinator at Camp Common Ground in Vermont. I …

The Daycare Dilemma
Tuesday, 2 Nov, 2010 – 19:49 | 30 Comments

By Jan Hunt, founder/director of The Natural Child Project, www.naturalchild.org
It’s always a dilemma for me to know just how to address the subject of substitute care, because there is such a gap in our culture …

How to Use Family Meetings
Wednesday, 20 Oct, 2010 – 15:05 | 6 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for East Portland API, Oregon USA
No matter if yours is a family of two or ten, taking regular opportunities to get together and talk about “business” helps …

10 Ways to Gently Respond When Children Say “I Can’t!”
Thursday, 30 Sep, 2010 – 9:21 | One Comment

By Dionna Ford, contributing editor to the API Speaks blog, blogger at www.codenamemama.com, cofounder of www.nursingfreedom.org
My son, Kieran, has been struggling with a bout of the “I cannot’s” lately.
“I cannot take my shirt off, you do …

Empowering Children with Choices
Tuesday, 21 Sep, 2010 – 16:11 | 3 Comments

By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for East Portland API, Oregon USA
Certainly there comes a point in our children’s lives where we need them to take on some added responsibility for themselves. …