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The Attached Family 2013 Loving Uniquely Issue is about loving each of our children as individuals with unique character traits.
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1. Pregnancy & Birth

Fertility and conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and the early postpartum period.

2. The Infant

From newborn to 17 months.

3. The Toddler

From 18 months to age 3.

4. The Growing Child

From age 4 to age 9.

5. The Adolescent

From age 10 to age 18.

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Helping Children Become Independent
Wednesday, 25 Aug, 2010 – 1:46 | 3 Comments

By Shoshana Hayman, director of the Life Center/Israel Center for Attachment Parenting,
There are some things that simply drive us parents crazy: One is when your child insists on doing something that you want to …

One-on-One Time
Wednesday, 18 Aug, 2010 – 0:38 | 4 Comments


By Kelly Bartlett, certified positive discipline educator and leader for East Portland API, Oregon USA
This weekend, my husband and daughter went camping, and I was able to spend 2 whole days with just my son. It …

API Parenting Support Survey: Parents Crave Local Support
Saturday, 7 Aug, 2010 – 9:47 | 2 Comments

A 2009 online survey by Attachment Parenting International revealed that parents around the world are hungry for support and education in their Attachment Parenting choices. Results from the survey clarify API’s role in providing this support.
This …

Why Your Child Doesn’t Share
Thursday, 29 Jul, 2010 – 15:45 | 15 Comments

By Naomi Aldort, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves,
Q: Our neighbor’s child happily shares everything, but our children don’t. They don’t share with each other either, and every piece of a treat …

The Grandparent Challenge
Wednesday, 2 Jun, 2010 – 20:27 | 12 Comments

By Sonya Fehér, contributing editor for the API Speaks blog, leader for API of South Austin, Texas, USA, and blogger at
How many of us arrived at Attachment Parenting because we wanted to parent differently …

Latest Research on Long-term Effects of Child Abuse
Tuesday, 4 May, 2010 – 20:48 | 5 Comments

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
In the United States alone, there are 3.2 million referrals to social services on allegations of child maltreatment each year – one-quarter of which are found …

Parenting without Punishment or Reward…Really?
Wednesday, 31 Mar, 2010 – 0:07 | 2 Comments

By Larissa Dann, Australia’s parenting editor for The Attached Family
I was 31 years old. In my arms, I held another life. He was warm, pliable and soft, caked in afterbirth, and seemed breakable. He had huge …

‘I was Spanked, and I’m Fine!’
Tuesday, 2 Mar, 2010 – 15:38 | No Comment

By Jan Hunt, founder/director of The Natural Child Project,
We hear it all the time, when spanking is mentioned. Someone steps forward and says something like this:
“Well, I don’t see what all the fuss is …

AP with the Double-Digit Child (10+ years old)
Wednesday, 17 Feb, 2010 – 18:08 | No Comment

By Gila Brown, MA, parent educator,
We know the Eight Principles of Parenting are fundamental in establishing the critical attachment bond with our little ones.
As children get older, their needs evolve. Once we’ve parented through infancy …

Do Consequences Work with Older Children?
Wednesday, 17 Feb, 2010 – 17:22 | No Comment

By Camille North, editor of API Links
Some years ago, my oldest son forgot his shoes on a routine trip to the grocery store. We’d struggled with the “shoe issue” for a while, and I hadn’t …

Nature Therapy
Wednesday, 20 Jan, 2010 – 0:54 | No Comment

By Carrie Kerr
I have always been of the opinion that days which are 70 degrees and sunny should be declared “National Hooky Days.” After all, what could be more important than getting outside on such a …

Barbie and Disney Princesses Every Which Way: Balancing Family Values with Individual Choices
Tuesday, 15 Dec, 2009 – 16:00 | 16 Comments

By Elaine Barrington
It used to be so much easier…
Sometimes I miss the days when my values and my daughter’s were one and the same. For the first few years of Isabelle’s life I believed I …

Where to Draw the Line? Exploring Boundaries, Limits, and Consequences
Tuesday, 15 Dec, 2009 – 13:53 | 2 Comments

By Tamara Parnay
“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”
~ Serenity Prayer, attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr theologian
A mother was …

What Children REALLY Want: An interview with author Licia Rando
Tuesday, 1 Dec, 2009 – 1:45 | No Comment

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
A cup of hot cocoa, a bubble bath, a cozy blanket, a cuddle with a fluffy dog, a steamy bowl of soup, a tuck into …

The Family Table
Tuesday, 20 Oct, 2009 – 0:04 | No Comment

By Judy Sanders, member of API’s Board of Directors and API’s Editorial Review Board
It’s dinnertime somewhere. Families sit around a dining table, or gather around a short-legged table, or settle on a rug in a …

Using Media Literacy in the Battle for Our Children’s Minds – and Health
Tuesday, 6 Oct, 2009 – 11:27 | One Comment

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
Who’s teaching your children about food and nutrition? As much as parents hope the answer is them, even attached children are barraged by food messages …

Is Organic Really Healthier?
Monday, 21 Sep, 2009 – 19:15 | No Comment

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
Georgia Jones isn’t accustomed to addressing a crowd as knowledgeable about food as are many attached parents. An University of Nebraska-Lincoln nutrition professor, Jones spends …

API’s Role in Shaping Parenting: Highlights from the 2009 API Think Tank Event in Nashville, TN
Wednesday, 9 Sep, 2009 – 16:10 | No Comment

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
In an unprecedented move, Attachment Parenting International gathered eight brilliant minds in Attachment Parenting for the organization’s 15th Anniversary Celebration gathering the last weekend of …

Dr. Isabelle Fox on Divorce and Older Children
Thursday, 3 Sep, 2009 – 10:08 | No Comment

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
Ideally, marriage lasts forever, but for a variety of reasons, many families today will experience divorce – an event that is as difficult on older …

The Parade of Little Girls
Tuesday, 18 Aug, 2009 – 14:44 | 3 Comments

By Tamara Brennan
Sooner or later, in every child’s life, it’s bound to happen. For my tender child, unexpected rejection came from her very first friend and before her third birthday. Clarisa and her shadow, little …

Is ‘I Love Lucy’ Educational?
Tuesday, 18 Aug, 2009 – 14:22 | No Comment

By Jan Hunt, member of API’s Advisory Board and API’s Editorial Review Board. Reprinted with permission from 
During a debate on legislation that would require a minimum of three hours of “educational and informative” television …

Parenting through Business Trips, Military Deployment, and Other Extended Separations
Tuesday, 18 Aug, 2009 – 14:09 | 3 Comments

By Amber Lewis, staff writer for The Attached Family
Every child and each parent is different, and family situations differ just as much as the people in them, making each situation unique with successes and challenges …

Say Sorry
Wednesday, 12 Aug, 2009 – 17:38 | 2 Comments

By Rita Brhel, managing editor and attachment parenting resource leader (API)
One of the hardest situations I face in my household is when one of my children hurts the other one, whether by accident or in …

Letter to the Editor: The Truth about TV
Wednesday, 12 Aug, 2009 – 5:11 | No Comment

By Joanna Glass, leader of API of Garner, North Carolina
Editor’s Note: This Letter to the Editor was written in response to an article published on The Attached Family on July 28, 2009, “TV as a …

No is Not the Lesson: Solving Power Struggles
Tuesday, 4 Aug, 2009 – 2:12 | 4 Comments

By Gaynell Payne
A part on our dishwasher broke. I spread a towel on the counter and washed the dishes by hand, laying them on the towel to dry. While I was washing, my 23-month-old son …