The antithesis of growth in parenting is fear that we are doing something wrong in how we are interacting with, relating to, and guiding our children. Fear stunts our parenting confidence, which in turn can reflect in our relationships with our children. An antidote to this fear that we are not doing enough or doing … Continue reading What is Shame?
Shame was a mainstay of parenting in past generations. Many of us parents can remember feeling shame, probably often, while growing up — along with threats, intimidation, and other forms of coercion. Although parenting trends have made great strides to align with what research shows to be the healthy way to discipline our children, remnants … Continue reading Core Beliefs Color Your Parenting
Among the strong emotions we feel, shame is among the most painful. It is a feeling that one, as an individual, is not “good enough.” Shame is different from guilt in that guilt arises from our actions that we believe violate others. Guilt is centered on our ability to empathize with how others perceive our … Continue reading What Makes Emotional Trauma? Fear, Disconnect & Shame
Although not a new phenomenon, there seems to have been an increase in incidents of racism, sexism, xenophobia, ableism, LGBTQ discrimination, sexual assault, bullying, and hate crimes as of late. As an activist, I feel compelled to get out there and help change the world. As a mother of 3 young boys, I feel immobilized … Continue reading Parenting as a Protest Against Hate
I’m awake writing this during the biologically normative and healthy stages of first and second sleep. Research has revealed that right up until the advent of electric light, humans normally experienced two distinct segments of sleep. About the Author Art Yuen is the KnowledgeBase Coordinator for Attachment Parenting International (API), a member of API’s Board … Continue reading What is Normal, Healthy Infant Sleep?
Separation can be sad for children at different ages and with different temperaments, and is often quite difficult for parents– sometimes more so for the parents than the kids! About the Author Art Yuen is the KnowledgeBase Coordinator for Attachment Parenting International (API), a member of API’s Board of Directors, and an API Leader with … Continue reading 6 Tips to Lessen Separation Anxiety
A child’s ability to form healthy self-validation is a vital goal of child development. In fact, a child’s capacity for self-validation has everything to do with the development of emotional safety — the overarching developmental goal of childhood. About the Author Denise Durkin, MA, is an early childhood mental health consultant and self-regulation specialist based … Continue reading Self-Validation Before Self-Control
It’s often said that children’s negative behaviors occur due to either the child is hoping to get something he or she wants, or the child is hoping to avoid something he or she doesn’t want. About the Author Denise Durkin, MA, is an early childhood mental health consultant and self-regulation specialist based in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, … Continue reading Engagement vs Redirection in Positive Discipline
Parenting is not easily definable. Once we accept that there are no “perfect parents” and we all are in a process of learning and discovery, we will grow alongside our children’s development. About the Author Brooke Campbell, MA, RDT-BCT, LCAT, lives in Livingston, New Jersey, USA, with her family. She is a creative arts and … Continue reading 11 Ways to Parent Outside the Box
I sometimes think of the teenage years as an “attachment test.” As I reflect on my own 6 children when they were teenagers, I assumed that if I got the attachment part right when they were babies and toddlers, then we were set for all the years ahead. After experiencing life with a teenager who … Continue reading How to Heal Attachment with Your Teen